“The day you agree to be big is the humblest day of your life.” — Judy Wilkins Smith
Just as your physical DNA is inherited, your emotional genetics also get passed down from generation to generation. Patterns of success, failure, love and money can be linked back to your ancestral family system. Which means, if a limiting pattern lives in your family history, it can show up in your personal and business life. Big time.
Think of Emotional DNA as a blueprint created by your ancestors, a set of decisions and events leading to patterns and outcomes. As your life unfolds, you end up repeating versions of these patterns that may have been created generations ago. This way of connecting with your family system is deeply unconscious, yet faithfully repeated. So, while the struggle is real, it may not belong to you.
Events create decisions. Decisions create unique language and actions. And that’s how patterns emerge. Here’s an example. Let’s say, your great grandmother is afraid to speak her mind after having been ridiculed. This can become a pattern of silence in women who fear being shamed Positive patterns emerge in the very same way, and success can create patterns of success.
Working together through coaching or workshops, I’ll help you reveal, reframe and rewire your Emotional DNA. You’ll learn to see patterns of behaviors and understand what they mean to your system, so you can mindfully change the language, actions, thoughts and feelings to align with the new way of thinking and being. It might start with one simple word, one small repetitive action, but when you put these concepts into action, you begin to change the blueprint and design your own life. Learn more on my blog.
In my workshops, I use the systemic approach along with a dimensional approach called Constellations, or interactive mapping, to map out issues and connect the dots. Participants can see and acknowledge old patterns, recognize their purpose and create a new path. Then, we flip limiting cycles into breakthrough performance–personal and professional. It’s truly life-changing.